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Be Awesome – But don’t tell anyone

This morning I finally (I’m not too disciplined in my reading, I’m trying to get better about that this year) finished reading a book I highly recommend. Love Does by Bob Goff.

If you haven’t read it. Go to the library or the bookstore (brick and mortar or virtual) and pick up a copy. It has definitely changed my perspective on how I’m living, speaking and thinking about others.

Bob (I feel like I can call him that after getting to know him through his book, he doesn’t seem like the Mr. Goff type) makes so many great points in his book about being engaged in Life and doing things, anything and everything, out of Love. If you do, then life – yours and those that you are interacting with – is just better.

I admit I have been a little down after the holidays. The past three months have taken a toll on me emotionally and physically. If this is your first time reading this blog you may want to check out Day One or The Day my life changed.

One of my favorite chapters was “Lose the Cape”.

In the “Lose the Cape” chapter, Bob talks about how Jesus wants us to be secretly incredible. He writes “I think instead, Jesus wants us to write ‘Be Awesome’ on an undershirt where it won’t be seen, not on the back of a hoodie.” I love this. I want to be Awesome like that.

In a world where people are bombarded by everyone trying to prove how awesome they are to anyone who will listen (think Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) how much fun would it be to be secretly awesome and know the One who really matters knows how awesome you are. In fact, as Bob says “…don’t take the bait that if we do incredible things Jesus will dig us more. He can’t. He already digs us more. And more than that, our pictures are already in His wallet.” be awesome

How cool is that? To think my picture is in Jesus’ wallet! Because we all know the only pictures in our wallets are people that we think are awesome.

I was a little disappointed a few weeks ago when I noticed that my Facebook page had “lost” a couple of followers. I don’t have many to begin with so losing a few was noticeable (ha ha). Then I read this chapter. And I decided to take off the cape. I’m not trying to be awesome for people I don’t know and prove to them how awesome I am. I am trying to be the best version of awesome I can be, and remind myself daily with #todaysawesome how awesome my life is and to be grateful for things that I used to take for granted.

In 2016, I want to live this out. I want to be awesome without having to shout it from the rooftop. Jesus would do something awesome and do you know what he would say afterwards? “Tell no one”

Let’s see how much Awesome we can spread together this year. I won’t tell if you won’t.

 

 

I can’t do ALL Things – Philippians 4:13

If you are a Christian, and even if you aren’t, you have probably heard the verse that I am using for my inspiration today.

Philippians 4:13. Yes, most Christians don’t even need to flip to their bible to know what the verse says.

I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (NIV)

This verse used to really bother me. You see, I used to be a perfectionist. That does not mean that I was perfect. It meant that if I didn’t do something perfect, then I would not do it at all. That held me back from doing a lot of things. Some of my friends and family may find that a little surprising (or maybe not).

I recently began this writing journey, which goes completely against my perfectionism, especially when writing for this 31 day challenge. I have had to fight against my tendency to be a perfectionist and, as Nike says in their advertisements or as Shia LaBeouf has shouted at most of the world Just Do It.

How does this relate to my previous aversion to this verse? Continue reading

Is that what is meant by Support?

This new life was scary for all of us. But we were especially concerned about our daughters as I was about to start chemo. Mom was going to lose her hair, she was not going to feel well, and well, who knows what else the next few months were going to hold.

We decided to go to the elementary school and meet with the girls’ teachers and administration so they were aware of what was happening at home and could help keep an eye on how they were handling things.

My oldest was in second grade at the time. Her teacher was an angel (in fact, she was later my younger daughter’s teacher too). When we told her about the diagnosis and that I would be starting chemo soon, she asked if she could add me to her prayer list at church. Of course, a few more prayers would never hurt.

Then she told me about a support group at her church for women with breast cancer. She asked if I would be interested in going. Honestly, I had never really had any need for a support group before, but this was new territory.

I agreed to go.

Looking back, I wish I had said no. We had a great support system from our friends, family and church. But I didn’t listen to that little voice. Continue reading

Don’t let Worry steal your Future

Last Sunday the sermon was about worry.  The preacher mentioned that there were studies that indicate that worry is a sign of intelligence. This post on Huffington Post, cites a study that found a relationship between worrying and verbal intelligence.

I admit I have been a worrier in the past. (I’m not trying to suggest that my verbal intelligence is high). But honestly, that was before I was diagnosed with cancer the second time. I guess I didn’t learn my lesson well enough the first time, so maybe I am an anomaly to the intelligence/worry correlation.

In 2010 when I got the news that my cancer had metastasized, I will admit I was worried and scared.

Scared for what that meant for my family. What would happen to them if I wasn’t around. After all, my kids were in middle school and high school. This might be too much for them to handle.

As happens when you get that kind of news, you go straight into fight mode. You find out what the test results are and you talk to you doctors to find out what the next course of action is. (You can read more about how this journey started by reading My Story and following along).

Since I wasn’t able to work during this time around due to physical issues, I felt isolated. Some wonderful friends talked me into joining a bible study at our church to help get me out of the house.

This was when the change started to take place. I participated in a bible study group for several months, and then found another class that was a more in depth study.

The small group (less than 15) and the daily reading and learning slowly began to change my outlook.

I began to understand that I could not change the fact that I have cancer. The best I could do, for me, for my family and for my health was to live life without worrying every day.

Easy?

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Surgery, Round 2…A Plan for Chemo

The world continued around me even though it felt like mine was falling a part.

My children still had to get up and go to school. I still had a job (that one that I just started in August). I had to continue to get up out of bed each morning and figure out how to make it through the day.

In 2003, my girls were 8 and 5, respectively. They did not understand what was going on with mom. They just knew that I was home and that climbing on me was uncomfortable for me, but as any mom will attest, the best medicine is a good snuggle from her kids.

Somehow I made it through the weekend and Wednesday came. It was time to go back to the hospital for round 2 of the lumpectomy. In addition to trying to get clear margins around the tumor, the surgeon was also going to remove some lymph nodes to determine if the cancer had gone beyond the breast. Continue reading

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